If you were broke, and I asked to borrow 10 bucks from you, would you be able to help me? Of course not! You may want to help me, but if you don’t have what I’m asking you for, you simply can’t give it to me. It’s the same with love…
If we don’t love ourselves, there’s not much of it we can give to others. On the contrary, the better we treat ourselves, the more abundant we are in it, and it spills out of us onto everyone around us! Isn’t that such a good reason then, to love ourselves FIRST?
No, there’s NOTHING selfish about caring for oneself. As explained, caring for ourselves percolates down to others in our life. But, wait a minute! What kind of ‘caring for myself’ am I talking about here? Well, I’m talking about self-care in the form of being a positive person. By being negative we insults ourselves — we insult our souls!
Why? Because when we’re negative, our bodies go into stress overdrive. Yes, It is now proven that stress symptoms can affect our body, our thoughts and feelings, and our behavior. Stress that’s left unchecked can contribute to health problems, such as chronic pain, fatigue, insomnia, high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity. It affects our mood, by causing anxiety, sadness, irritability, and all their variants. Lastly, it also affects our behavior causing eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse, tobacco use and even social withdrawal. Wouldn’t you agree then, that being negative is a form of self-hatred?
So, let’s take a Valentine’s Day vow to love ourselves more, and walk the love-path :)! Here is a simple suggestion to start the process: From the moment you read this post, make a promise to yourself that each time you want to say something negative, or a negative thought crosses your mind, or you realize that stress is building up in you, JUST SMILE! WHAT — just smile, you ask??? Yes, quite simply, stretch your lips from side to side in a smile, even if you don’t feel like smiling ;)! Try it — you will see that a big ‘pretend smile’ will soon give your heart such a lift that you will involuntarily take a deep breath and smile for real :)! The world will not seem like such a bad place ;), and the stress in your body will vamoose…it will disappear! Now THIS would be a very good way to start loving yourself! N’est-ce pas? Don’t you agree?
May your path be strewn with rose petals 🙂