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Who is responsible for your happiness?

I have found one thing in life, that I must not hold anyone else responsible for my happiness. My happiness is my own to create and cultivate. Expecting others to provide it to us is to short-change ourselves, because in our expectation of it from the outside we put our happiness on hold. We sit there, with bated breath, thinking and wondering will they, won’t they, do such and such for us—all the while depriving ourselves of being in a happy state, that we could create for ourselves.

To me, my state of happiness is a choice, a decision I make, regardless of what others are doing around me. Yes, being human, we do have expectations from others but the trick is to not base our happiness on what they will or will not do. When we have expectations, and these expectations aren’t met, all sorts of fears come up. Again, deal with your fears — if you don’t know how, get information or get help, but keep them separate from a happy state of mind.

To many this may sound very strange, and very confusing because almost everybody relates happiness with wish-fulfillment, and expectations met. Ponder over this for a moment. What if the two could be kept separate? What would that mean to you? Would it not bring a greater sense of peace to you, and a sense of empowerment? An easy way to get on track is to make a list of things that make you feel happy and fulfilled by yourself. By all means enjoy your connections and friendships, but also learn how to create your own happiness! Do think about this, and let me know… 😉


Money, money, money

Most of us have a very hypocritical attitude to money. Most people feel very torn by statements such as, “Money doesn’t bring us happiness”, and see that as synonymous with “Money is not important”. Now, we know we need money, we know it is important—it is vital for our survival at one end, and it buys us creature comforts and pleasure at the other. But, when we are brainwashed into believing it’s not important, we are then conflicted, and this sends us into a space of guilt because we tend to believe that giving importance to money must mean we’re unspiritual, and “bad”!

Well, to me, the problem with all of this is the impression that ‘happiness’ is synonymous with ‘important’! The implication that these two unrelated words, ‘important’ and ‘happiness’, mean the same is at the root of the confusion. To put everything into perspective, let’s separate the two words by making two different sentences:

* Money is important for our survival

* Happiness is a state of mind needing nothing external

And now let’s keep it this way! Yes, with money, in addition to survival, we may buy relief, comfort, pleasant moments, but these are always transitory, and last until we return to our original state of unhappiness, and then need more money to prop ourselves up, again.

So, to cut the long story short, let us not entangle one with the other, but understand that money is an energy that we exchange for our needs and wants. And again, it’s important to remember that the satisfaction of these needs and wants brings us relief, pleasure, comfort etc. and important as they may be, they don’t bring us happiness.

Happiness always stands alone! And, thank goodness that it does, because otherwise, a person with less money would never know what happiness is!


What’s the key to happiness?

From times immemorial the world has searched for the elusive answer to this question! I’m presenting several quotes here, all offered online by ‘google’. Take your pick, or come up with your own answers — keeping in mind there can’t be wrong or right answers :)!

  • Do what makes YOU happy. Don’t care about what others think.
  • Forgiveness is keeping the key to happiness in your own pocket…
  • Everyone has battles. Everyone has different coping skills. But finding the positive in everything is the key to happiness.
  • The key to happiness is to have low expectations.
  • Learn to let go. That’s the key to happiness.
  • There is no key to happiness, the door is always open. On this road to happiness and fulfillment a person must be able to realize and accept a variety of things. One of these things is that a person must realize who they are, and that true happiness will only be achieved if they are willing to be themselves and not who others may want them to be!
  • Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.

…and finally, one sad person complained, “When I find the key to happiness, someone changes the lock.” 😉

Now, what about YOU? What, according to you, is the ‘Key to Happiness’? Answers here would be highly appreciated 🙂


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