I have found one thing in life, that I must not hold anyone else responsible for my happiness. My happiness is my own to create and cultivate. Expecting others to provide it to us is to short-change ourselves, because in our expectation of it from the outside we put our happiness on hold. We sit there, with bated breath, thinking and wondering will they, won’t they, do such and such for us—all the while depriving ourselves of being in a happy state, that we could create for ourselves.
To me, my state of happiness is a choice, a decision I make, regardless of what others are doing around me. Yes, being human, we do have expectations from others but the trick is to not base our happiness on what they will or will not do. When we have expectations, and these expectations aren’t met, all sorts of fears come up. Again, deal with your fears — if you don’t know how, get information or get help, but keep them separate from a happy state of mind.
To many this may sound very strange, and very confusing because almost everybody relates happiness with wish-fulfillment, and expectations met. Ponder over this for a moment. What if the two could be kept separate? What would that mean to you? Would it not bring a greater sense of peace to you, and a sense of empowerment? An easy way to get on track is to make a list of things that make you feel happy and fulfilled by yourself. By all means enjoy your connections and friendships, but also learn how to create your own happiness! Do think about this, and let me know… 😉