I wrote the title of the post and instead of continuing to write my own ideas, I decided to first throw it as a question to you all, the readers of this blog :)! So, if you truly loved and respected yourself, who would you be? What would you do? More importantly, what are the things you wouldn’t be, or do?
I have found that sometimes, to be able to answer questions of this nature, and for more clarity, it is essential to have a clear understanding of what it is that we would NOT want. Now go ahead, take some time to think about these questions :)… In tomorrow’s blog I’ll return with more.
I have found: Life is a wave; it ebbs and flows…ebbs and flows…and people, mostly, don’t like the ebbing. Left to themselves, they’d just like it to flow, evenly and smoothly, at all times.
Coaching Clients ask me: “Ok–now that I’m doing the work,… when will the ups and downs in my life stop? When will it all flow straight?” I find that that’s a good time to tell them: “Ever seen the reading on an ECG machine? Do you know when the line shows all straight, without the curves?” The question makes them smile, because that line is all straight when someone is dead—otherwise the line must keep curving, like a wave, up and down, ebbing and flowing!What is true, however, is that the more work one does on oneself, the better we get at managing the downs! When we do ‘the work’, our downs don’t last too long; they aren’t too intense, and not unmanageably painful; when we fall, we know how to pick ourselves up again; and we know how to bring life back to a state of balance. The more we do this, the better we get at it and the deeper the peace within. The more peace there is, the harder it is to fall, and stay down too long!
Londonderry Air is an ‘air‘ (music) that originated from County Londonderry in Ireland (now Northern Ireland). It is popular among the Irish diaspora and is very well known throughout the world. The tune is played as the victory anthem of Northern Ireland at the Commonwealth Games, and the song “Danny Boy” set to the tune, is hugely popular.
For some inexplicable reason, this song has always brought up a lot of haunting sadness in me, since I first heard it at the age of around 12. Now that this has come up again today, I think I need to investigate the connection ;)…
But another lovely poem/song that is set to the same melody, Londonderry Air, I learned and memorized during my school years. It is something that moulded me to become the person I am in my life. Here are the words, written in 1906 by Howard A. Walter, learned at around age 12, and never forgotten:
I would be true, for there are those who trust me;
I would be pure, for there are those who care;
I would be strong, for there is much to suffer;
I would be brave, for there is much to dare.
I would be friend of all—the foe, the friendless;
I would be giving, and forget the gift;
I would be humble, for I know my weakness;
I would look up, and laugh, and love, and lift.
Here’s the best youtube link I found, although the words are slightly changed in it!
Interesting though, that upon checking this poem out online, I found the original version that I never knew existed… very Christian, but lovely, all the same (I’m not Christian). If I removed the religiously-inclined words, it still makes perfect sense to me :)!
If only more people… but let’s not go there! I can only speak about MY truth 🙂
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.”
Right from my childhood/adolescence I have collected beautiful quotes, and this poem, Anyway, is a part of that collection. It first came into my hands sometime in the early 1970s. It is sometimes mistakenly attributed to Mother Teresa because it was found on her wall after she died. The real author of course is Kent M. Keith. What wonderful sentiments 🙂
There are several different interpretations of this ancient and famous quote “As within so without”, and I prefer to stick with the very literal meaning conveyed by it. My own experience has taught me that these words mean exactly what they say, that our inner and outer states are representations of each other, they reflect each other. To explain how this happens, I need to ask you, dear reader, to keep an open mind and just read on. They do say, “A mind is like a parachute; it only works when it is open!” ;)…so, for starters let’s just open up to hearing some new ideas here, and later decide if we’ll accept them or not.
There’s a huge body of research and information that conclusively proves that our inner state is actually the very creator of the environment we find ourselves living in. For example, a calm and relaxed inner state creates a calm and relaxed outer environment — everything goes well, and life moves along smoothly. Then, quite suddenly, we find that there is a lack of harmony in our environment, and there are obstacles and frustrations.
This is a good time to do some investigation and look for areas of discord within. Investigate, what happened that disturbed your inner balance? Due to what reasons were you disconnected with a sense of contentment and peace within? The answers to these questions, and their resolution are also the fix for an outer environment that’s dysfunctional. Take care of the within, and the without will take care of itself! This is a new category I’m starting today, on health related issues…you’ll be hearing much more about all this in the near future! Ciao, ciao…
I read this beautiful story some two decades ago, and its impact on me hasn’t changed. It is the story of an old Cherokee grandfather and his young grandson. The grandson spoke to the old man about the anger he felt against his friend who had not been fair to him. The grandfather made him sit down beside him and said, “I too have sometimes felt great hatred and anger towards those who take so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But, hate wears you down and does not hurt your enemy. It is like drinking poison, wishing the other person would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.”
“Let me tell you a story,” the grandfather continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.”
“He is at peace with himself!”
“But the other wolf.. Ah! The littlest things will send him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all of the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for it will change nothing.”
“Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looked at his grandfather intently, a bit afraid, and asked, “Which wolf will win, Grandfather?” The grandfather smiled quietly and said, “The one I feed!”
Which wolf do YOU feed? Which wolf wins more of the time?
…with your compliments — you never know when you’ll brighten someon’s day :)! Yesterday and today turned out to be stressful for me — forgetting things, losing things, being disorganized and on both days received really sweet compliments on how my cheerfulness, helpfulness, generosity are appreciated… and just when I chided myself on not finding the time to fix my hair, someone stopped me and told me how nice my hair looked ;)!
I took away two things from all this:
* Not to be so hard on myself
* Remember to always say out aloud, the nice things I notice about people
Go on, pay that compliment — you’ll warm somebody’s heart! <3
In life, everyone who crosses our path, is an angel in disguise… but it takes a lot of personal growth to finally understand this!
Some of these ‘angels’ come into our life to bring us lessons, so we may begin to understand our fears and insecurities, and hopefully grow and evolve enough to overcome them! This leads to deep inner healing, making us more complete, and authentic human beings!
Then there are ‘angels’ who meet us with love… to help us open our hearts more, to experience an expansiveness we didn’t know we were capable of!
What we need to understand is that at a soul level we attracted each one of them to us — some of them for the lessons we needed to learn for our growth, and some others for the support their love brings to us, helping us to stay standing in the face of the harshness of the lessons to be learned in life!
…take us to the heavens we find :)! In life, a day or a moment will always come when there will be only two choices before us — to chicken out and maintain the status quo, or to take courage in both hands and break from the old mold, which we have outgrown, and which now is only causing constriction and pain by not permitting any growth, nor even allowing in air to breathe. Which way will you go that day? Will you choose to fear the unknown and shrivel up and die…or will you risk the unknown, grow wings, and fly?
French-born American author Anais Nin wrote:
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”