Category Archives: Wanderings, Inner

I seriously need your input :)

Hi folks,

As you’ve probably noticed, my posts have recently been erratic and not half as regular as they used to be. The reason is that I’m working with a writing coach and striving hard to produce a book in the near future. The book is going to deal with the spiritual, deeper issues providing answers to life’s perplexing problems.

So, here’s what I need your help with :)! Could you please write and let me know what is the most perplexing spiritual problem you are facing, or have faced, and are looking for answers for! I promise your comments will be confidential and not mentioned anywhere — neither here, nor in the book, unless you expressly give me permission and want me to quote you. Thank you!

Looking forward to hearing from you, and thanks in advance for this help.

Wishing you peace in your journey 🙂

The practice of Gratitude <3

As the readers may have noticed, I’m a big proponent of the practice of gratitude! Here are three versions of the same sentiment…


And, here are lines from the author Melodie Beattie that I love very much:

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~Melodie Beattie


Be grateful…be blessed! <3

Who are you, ‘really’?

I have found, that life is life! The best we can do with it is to live it. But better than best would be to make it count—not for anyone else, but to make it count for YOU! No matter where it takes you, don’t give up on it, because no matter where you may find yourself, unknown to you, just a few steps away, is a turn in the road that you can’t yet see, leading you to your best ever life!

Many people start withdrawing from life as sorrows hit them. These sorrows come from losses…the loss of a child, a loved one, someone close to us, or the loss of material stuff, an income or prestige of some sort. Many people’s only identity is these external fixtures, that a quirk of fate can take away from us. How strange then, to be so disconnected with yourself, that  according to you, you’re only a ‘title’ — a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher etc… or a ‘proprietor’, an ‘owner’, of a business or property, or material wealth etc. What if this title, or what you own, gets taken away? Who would you be then? What would be your identity?

This piece is not a lecture about materialism—it is about the REAL person who lives inside you. Most of us are not even aware of this ‘person’ that lives inside us, waiting for its day in the sun?

A very useful and powerful exercise in therapy circles is to make a list of all the ways you and your acquaintances describe and see you (an impression you’ve taken a lot of trouble to create) and then one by one, remove these descriptions till you are just YOU, without a name, title, wealth, material possessions.

Who would you be then? Would you know this person that you truly are, inside? How closely do you recognize her/him? Do you like this person? Could you live with this person if the trappings were taken away? Yes? No?

Think deeply about it, then proceed to become the person you could love, respect, honor, trust, and feel safe with. If you’re not there yet, there’s work to be done!

What is Reiki?

imagesAs an ‘energy’ healer/therapist I’m often asked this question. The simple answer is: “Reiki is a healing technique based on the principle that the therapist can channel energy into the ‘receiver’ by means of touch, activating the natural healing processes of the receiver’s body, and restoring physical and emotional well-being.” What this definition is missing is the fact that this first step leads to core healing at the physical, emotional and spiritual levels 🙂

imagesTo explain further, it is a technique that balances the energy in our endocrine glands, which are the energy centers that can become over or under-energized, depending on a person’s lifestyle or simply their pace of life.

It is said that ‘stress’ is the biggest killer of our age! When coping with stress, don’t underestimate the value of ‘Reiki’ (pronounced ray-kee), to bring your body and all its systems into balance.

I hope you’ll try a session soon!

If you have a quiet home

I just returned home after a hectic afternoon with friends from my flamenco group — an hour of intensive practice; some time devoted to discussing our progress and planning future practice sessions, and some to planning our forthcoming trip to Seville, Spain. Added to that was a bit of urgent shopping, for items I had to run around a bit to find. When I finally got home, turned the key in my door and stepped into the hallway, I was, as I always do, filled with a sense of deep peace and quietude.

I feel very blessed to have such a peaceful, quiet home, in very quiet and peaceful surroundings. As I connected with this tangible feeling of tranquility, the lines from a poem I had learnt in Grade 7 flashed through my mind. The name of the poem was ‘A Quiet Room’, written by Patience Strong (her ‘nom de plume’/pen name).

“If you have a quiet room
Then you are truly blessed.
For only in a quiet room
Can heart and mind find rest.”

I changed the word room to ‘home’ in the title of today’s post because that’s my situation, but for those who have only a room they can call their own, in a larger home or building, I hope it’s a quiet one, a calm one where you can be still within. For, to hear inner wisdom we have to have quiet surroundings, or the external noise just takes over our life.

I often wonder at people who need constant noise around them, and when they’re by themselves they have headphones or earphones stuck in their ears with sometimes music blasting away so loud that others around them can hear it. When do these people enjoy the sound of silence, I ask myself.

We live in miraculous bodies, that also receive intelligent information from nature, from the Universe, and if we’re never calm and quiet, within and without, chances are we’re existing at a very superficial level, completely disconnected from our Source!

My wish for everyone here is a few moments of stillness and quietude in your day so that you may walk more gently through your life <3


What is the Law of Attraction (L of A)

By now, almost everyone has read the book, the Secret! It was a wonderful book, and its Australian author, Rhonda Byrne, single-handedly raised the ‘spirituality’ level of the planet by many notches! Any time, now, when I start speaking about ‘energy’ a lot of people I know tell me, “Yes, I know what you’re talking about. I have read The Secret!” And this is always so wonderful to hear! 🙂

As a result of this book, a lot of people have understood, or have started to understand the Universal Law of Attraction. There are several Universal Laws, and all are important, and this one is one of the most popular ones.

Quite simply put, the Law of Attraction means that:

(First the bad news)

Anger WILL beget* anger
Fear WILL beget fear
Hatred WILL beget hatred

and on, and on, and on…

(And now the GOOD news)

LOVE WILL beget love
TRUST WILL beget trust
PEACE WILL beget peace

and on, and on, and on and on… <3

*Beget means to generate, or to result in (something)


On being successful

In determining what is success, I have found that it’s important to not let ourselves be held hostage by the society’s, or someone else’s idea of what success is. Instead, it is better if we investigate within, and figure out for ourselves what ‘success’ personally means to us!

Today, the world mostly interprets success to mean the resources someone has accumulated; their accessibility to material objects, and the measuring stick for success seems to be the answer to these questions: How much money someone has or makes? What do they do for a living? What school did they go to? Does their address show affluence (do they live in the ‘right’ part of town)? What car do they drive? How often do they travel? Where do they travel to? If married, who are they married to?

What if judging yourself by these criteria, you feel you’re a failure? And if no change in the above scenarios seems possible, would you feel doomed to feeling a failure for the rest of your life? Don’t you then think, that it would be a more intelligent exercise to re-evaluate for yourself, what success is, and what it means to YOU?

I cannot describe success for anyone else, because this definition should be a personal one. However, I can certainly help you find your own answers by sharing what success means to me. Over the years, as I walked consciously along the spiritual path, I started realizing that having made the spiritual gains I’d made, I would not trade places with anybody else in my life — people I had earlier considered very successful, and by the norms of the society I lived in, they were indeed, very successful, but no, I didn’t any more want to be like anyone else. Due to the earlier brain-washing, I was a bit surprised at this awareness, but so comfortable was I in my skin, that to change who I’d become was simply not desirable. I remembered then, a definition of success from a long time ago that had appealed to me, and with which I now resonated very strongly: “Success is living your days exactly as you want to live them!” I saw how true this was of me, and from this vantage point, success felt sweet.

Then, moving on still further, I remember arriving at a point where the word success lost all meaning :)— because, if I was living my days exactly as I wanted to live them, then what did it matter if I was a success or not by any conventional, or unconventional, standards!

So, NOW what does the word success mean to you? 😉


On children, and grandchildren

This past weekend, I had the good fortune of spending four whole days with my children and grandchildren! We live in three different cities, but luckily all in North America, so meetings don’t require visas and special permission of any sort. Like most grandparents, I take a huge delight in enjoying the company of my grandchildren… those fresh, smart, keen 21st century beings :), whose brains are so completely wired differently than ours, and no matter how much we like to believe they belong to us, or that at some level we own them, for the sake of our own, and their happiness, it is imperative to realize and accept that this thought is fallacious! Why? To begin with, we cannot own another human being, and secondly, the world we grew up in is so, so different from the one they’re growing up in, that one of us could be from another planet! To this end, I’d love to share Kahlil Gibran poem, which I so endorse! Here it is, for your reading pleasure:

On Children ~ by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.


Just love them, then leave them to grow, thrive, flourish… and yet, be there for them, whenever they need you!


I love myself enough to (3)…

[This is third in the series of this topic…. to understand what’s being said here, please read the last two blog posts. Thank you.]

A topic of this nature, how to understand and potentially handle regrets, in a blog post of about 500 words, would be considered foolhardy, even by myself ;)… but, nevertheless, I’m going to try and do it :)! Instead of preaching, I’m going to share how I handle this matter in my own life.

Here’s what I do: I divide all desires, small and big, partly frivolous (getting a tattoo/body piercing, taking a dance course) and/or materialistic (buying a high-ticket item when money is scarce), personal yearnings (traveling somewhere, doing something special for someone I love), and other wants and needs, into two sections.

One contains the superficial, slightly worldly and materialistic desires, and the other contains the ‘higher’ soul-needs… which cannot be compromised, which I don’t want to fail at, at any cost, which I know will nourish my soul and deepen my connection with the Universe — these may involve money spent on intellectual and/or spiritual activities, spending money and effort on making calm/peace-inducing and other similar changes in my immediate environment, permitting myself the luxury of paying for what is meaningful in my life, vis a vis people, places, things.

So, then, I take these two sections, and one at a time, I address the items on the two lists and give it the ‘death-bed test’! A ‘death-bed test???… what’s that, you’re probably wondering :)! Well, all it means is that when I’m ready to pass on, how will I feel about this particular thing? Will it be alright with me that I didn’t do it, or will I feel remorse and regret that I let the time or moment pass, and didn’t do, or say, something I should have 🙁 ? And, at that point, if it’s absolutely clear to me, at a deep, and soul level, that I’ll have regrets, while dying, I go ahead and just do it, and/or say it 🙂 !!!

And how did I hit upon this ‘test’? It happened when after 25 years of deliberating whether or not I should get a tattoo — seeing a beautiful rosebud on a woman’s ankle on Oxford Street in London in 1980, immediately wanting it, but having been raised in India, very conventionally, with strict ideas of ‘wrong’ and ‘right’, was very unsure about getting it — for reasons of ‘What will people think?’ ‘I’m the principal and owner of a school — if people find out, will it hurt my business?’ ‘Will people who judge people with tattoos, find me too wild?’ — all these, and a host of related questions kept me deliberating forever! Then I moved to Montreal in 1993, at a time when tattooing had evolved, it was all the rage, and I knew in my heart I still wanted one…. a-n-n-n-d, s-o-o-o, I  decided to give myself the ‘death-bed test’ 🙂… and immediately I knew… if I didn’t get my tattoo, I would be very regretful on my dying day, that for the sake of what others would think, I didn’t get it in this lifetime 🙁  🙁 🙁 !!! This discovery was SO FREEING, brought such a sense of liberation, that I decided I just had to be true to myself, and I went ahead and got my tattoo!!! This experience led to the wonderful innovation of the ‘death-bed test’! Since then, whenever I’m faced with a situation that I start deliberating too long over, I give myself this ‘test’!!!

Your turn, now… give yourself a death-bed test, and think about what you would do differently, what would you DO instead of not doing, and in the final analysis, what would see you smile, on YOUR death-bed? Choose that, and DO IT 🙂


“I love myself enough to (2)…

…take the time and trouble to get all the information I need to understand what makes me thrive, and what hurts me.” How wonderful it would be if we all had the clarity to be able to understand and declare this to ourselves!

This information would obviously cover the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual realms of being. Many, in fact a great majority, is aware only of the physical and mental aspects of life… a few more will entertain the workings of the emotional mind, but the more we learn, the more we understand that if we truly love and respect ourselves, we cannot ignore the interplay of these ALL four aspects of our true and complete reality. And more importantly, a lack of balance in the first three will truly hurt the spiritual aspect, which is the most important aspect of them all.

So, if I truly loved and respected myself, I would do everything in my power to live a fulfilled life — with no regrets! <3 On this Easter Sunday, my wish for you all is, may you fulfill each life-enhancing dream, experiencing every happiness, and when it's time for the final goodbye, 'leave' peacefully, with no regrets! <3