On being successful

In determining what is success, I have found that it’s important to not let ourselves be held hostage by the society’s, or someone else’s idea of what success is. Instead, it is better if we investigate within, and figure out for ourselves what ‘success’ personally means to us!

Today, the world mostly interprets success to mean the resources someone has accumulated; their accessibility to material objects, and the measuring stick for success seems to be the answer to these questions: How much money someone has or makes? What do they do for a living? What school did they go to? Does their address show affluence (do they live in the ‘right’ part of town)? What car do they drive? How often do they travel? Where do they travel to? If married, who are they married to?

What if judging yourself by these criteria, you feel you’re a failure? And if no change in the above scenarios seems possible, would you feel doomed to feeling a failure for the rest of your life? Don’t you then think, that it would be a more intelligent exercise to re-evaluate for yourself, what success is, and what it means to YOU?

I cannot describe success for anyone else, because this definition should be a personal one. However, I can certainly help you find your own answers by sharing what success means to me. Over the years, as I walked consciously along the spiritual path, I started realizing that having made the spiritual gains I’d made, I would not trade places with anybody else in my life — people I had earlier considered very successful, and by the norms of the society I lived in, they were indeed, very successful, but no, I didn’t any more want to be like anyone else. Due to the earlier brain-washing, I was a bit surprised at this awareness, but so comfortable was I in my skin, that to change who I’d become was simply not desirable. I remembered then, a definition of success from a long time ago that had appealed to me, and with which I now resonated very strongly: “Success is living your days exactly as you want to live them!” I saw how true this was of me, and from this vantage point, success felt sweet.

Then, moving on still further, I remember arriving at a point where the word success lost all meaning :)— because, if I was living my days exactly as I wanted to live them, then what did it matter if I was a success or not by any conventional, or unconventional, standards!

So, NOW what does the word success mean to you? 😉

 

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