Monthly Archives: April 2014

What is the Law of Attraction (L of A)

By now, almost everyone has read the book, the Secret! It was a wonderful book, and its Australian author, Rhonda Byrne, single-handedly raised the ‘spirituality’ level of the planet by many notches! Any time, now, when I start speaking about ‘energy’ a lot of people I know tell me, “Yes, I know what you’re talking about. I have read The Secret!” And this is always so wonderful to hear! 🙂

As a result of this book, a lot of people have understood, or have started to understand the Universal Law of Attraction. There are several Universal Laws, and all are important, and this one is one of the most popular ones.

Quite simply put, the Law of Attraction means that:

(First the bad news)

Anger WILL beget* anger
Fear WILL beget fear
Hatred WILL beget hatred

and on, and on, and on…

(And now the GOOD news)

LOVE WILL beget love
TRUST WILL beget trust
PEACE WILL beget peace

and on, and on, and on and on… <3

*Beget means to generate, or to result in (something)


On being successful

In determining what is success, I have found that it’s important to not let ourselves be held hostage by the society’s, or someone else’s idea of what success is. Instead, it is better if we investigate within, and figure out for ourselves what ‘success’ personally means to us!

Today, the world mostly interprets success to mean the resources someone has accumulated; their accessibility to material objects, and the measuring stick for success seems to be the answer to these questions: How much money someone has or makes? What do they do for a living? What school did they go to? Does their address show affluence (do they live in the ‘right’ part of town)? What car do they drive? How often do they travel? Where do they travel to? If married, who are they married to?

What if judging yourself by these criteria, you feel you’re a failure? And if no change in the above scenarios seems possible, would you feel doomed to feeling a failure for the rest of your life? Don’t you then think, that it would be a more intelligent exercise to re-evaluate for yourself, what success is, and what it means to YOU?

I cannot describe success for anyone else, because this definition should be a personal one. However, I can certainly help you find your own answers by sharing what success means to me. Over the years, as I walked consciously along the spiritual path, I started realizing that having made the spiritual gains I’d made, I would not trade places with anybody else in my life — people I had earlier considered very successful, and by the norms of the society I lived in, they were indeed, very successful, but no, I didn’t any more want to be like anyone else. Due to the earlier brain-washing, I was a bit surprised at this awareness, but so comfortable was I in my skin, that to change who I’d become was simply not desirable. I remembered then, a definition of success from a long time ago that had appealed to me, and with which I now resonated very strongly: “Success is living your days exactly as you want to live them!” I saw how true this was of me, and from this vantage point, success felt sweet.

Then, moving on still further, I remember arriving at a point where the word success lost all meaning :)— because, if I was living my days exactly as I wanted to live them, then what did it matter if I was a success or not by any conventional, or unconventional, standards!

So, NOW what does the word success mean to you? 😉


Who likes movies?

This might be a very odd question for most people ;)… especially those who watch almost every movie that’s made, and I know several such people! I have never been an avid movie-goer, but there was a time I did watch all the very popular ones, or if a friend recommended one. However, being a writer, I’m a sucker for good lines, and know a lot of them, even if I didn’t watch a particular movie. Here are some of my favorite movie lines!

* “You complete me!” and “You had me at ‘hello’!” — The famous lines from the movie Jerry Maguire, that express love, and how long a person has had affection for somebody. Both lines are in a dialogue. At the end of the movie, when Jerry (Tom Cruise) expresses his love in a long speech to Dorothy (Renee Zelwegger), Dorothy’s reply was simply: “You had me at hello.”

Jerry Maguire: “I love you. You… complete me.”
Dorothy: “Shut up. Just shut up. You had me at ‘hello’.”

* “Here’s looking at you kid!” — The well known, but slightly confusing line from the movie Casablanca has been interpreted differently by different people, but the most common interpretation is that it was a one-time idiomatic phrase meaning simply, “Here’s to you”, or “Best of luck to you and your future endeavours.”

It’s a bit ambiguous and so you kind of have to conclude its meaning from the context, but as Rick, the character played by Humphrey Bogart, used it as his goodbye to Ilsa, played by Ingrid Bergman, believing he’ll never see her again, it can be assumed he was wishing her luck and a happy future!

* “Fear is the path to the dark side…fear leads to anger…anger leads to hate…hate leads to suffering!” — This is one of my favorite lines from Yoda, in the Star Wars movie, The Fantom Menace. The line is self-explanatory!

* “Do. Or do not. There is no try!” — another one of my favorite lines from Star Wars, The Empire Strikes Back. This one is THE most popular of Yoda’s quotes!
* “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it!” — This line was spoken by Rafiki, in the movie Lion King.
* “There is a story in the Talmud about a king who had a son who went astray. The son was told, ‘Return to your father.’ The son replied that he could not. The king then sent a messenger to the son with the message…’Come back to me as far as you can, and I will meet you the rest of the way!’ ” Reuven, the character played by Barry Miller in the movie “The Chosen”
Enjoy :)… and you are most welcome to share your own favorite lines from the movies!

Life’s like that — Clever Prof :)))

I have posted this joke before, but find it so funny that I thought I should repost it for all the new readers who’ve joined since then :)! In any case, good jokes are meant to be repeated, periodically :)!


At Pennsylvania State University, there were four sophomores taking Chemistry, and all of them were ‘A’ level students. These four friends were so confident that on the weekend before finals they decided to visit some friends and have a big party. They had a great time, but after all the partying, they slept all day Sunday and were only back at school early Monday morning.

Rather than taking the final on Monday, without studying, they decided to wait until the exam was over, and then they’d explain to their professor why they’d missed it. They said they’d visited friends, but on the way back they had a flat tire. As a result, they missed the final.

The professor agreed they could make up for the final exam the next day. The guys were excited and relieved. They studied that night for exam.

The next day, the professor placed them in separate rooms and gave them a test booklet. They quickly answered the first problem worth 5 points. Cool, they thought! Each one, in separate rooms thought this was going to be easy — and then they turned the page. On the second page was written………

For 95 points:     Which tire? _________


On children, and grandchildren

This past weekend, I had the good fortune of spending four whole days with my children and grandchildren! We live in three different cities, but luckily all in North America, so meetings don’t require visas and special permission of any sort. Like most grandparents, I take a huge delight in enjoying the company of my grandchildren… those fresh, smart, keen 21st century beings :), whose brains are so completely wired differently than ours, and no matter how much we like to believe they belong to us, or that at some level we own them, for the sake of our own, and their happiness, it is imperative to realize and accept that this thought is fallacious! Why? To begin with, we cannot own another human being, and secondly, the world we grew up in is so, so different from the one they’re growing up in, that one of us could be from another planet! To this end, I’d love to share Kahlil Gibran poem, which I so endorse! Here it is, for your reading pleasure:

On Children ~ by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.


Just love them, then leave them to grow, thrive, flourish… and yet, be there for them, whenever they need you!


An amazing, easy drinking wine

4-01_passoDobleLast evening, got home, nice and exhausted, after five days away during the Easter weekend. Since it was already 7:00 p.m., wine time in this neck of the woods, what was I going to do as I checked my emails etc. but open a bottle of wine first and then settle down to the business of getting life back to normal!

The bottle I opened was MASI, Passo Doble, but not produced in Italy — this one is a product of Argentina…apparently the company has wine interests there too. I hadn’t opened it yet because I wasn’t absolutely sure of the recommendation I’d received, but yesterday changed all that. It turned out to be one of the most delicious wines I’ve had, and I’m definitely stocking up on more :)! This is what I found online about it:

Red wine with unusual aromatic richness, striking for its fruity intensity and light spiciness.


This is a modern wine made in an unconventional style from grapes produced on the Masi Tupungato La Arboleda estate at Mendoza in Argentina. It gets its generous, strong and exuberant nature from the local Malbec grape, while Corvina Veronese, given a short Appassimento, gives it the typical attractiveness, elegance and friendliness of wine from the Veneto. Grape Varieties are  Malbec, Corvina

My recommendation: Run, don’t walk — get a bottle to try today!


I love myself enough to (3)…

[This is third in the series of this topic…. to understand what’s being said here, please read the last two blog posts. Thank you.]

A topic of this nature, how to understand and potentially handle regrets, in a blog post of about 500 words, would be considered foolhardy, even by myself ;)… but, nevertheless, I’m going to try and do it :)! Instead of preaching, I’m going to share how I handle this matter in my own life.

Here’s what I do: I divide all desires, small and big, partly frivolous (getting a tattoo/body piercing, taking a dance course) and/or materialistic (buying a high-ticket item when money is scarce), personal yearnings (traveling somewhere, doing something special for someone I love), and other wants and needs, into two sections.

One contains the superficial, slightly worldly and materialistic desires, and the other contains the ‘higher’ soul-needs… which cannot be compromised, which I don’t want to fail at, at any cost, which I know will nourish my soul and deepen my connection with the Universe — these may involve money spent on intellectual and/or spiritual activities, spending money and effort on making calm/peace-inducing and other similar changes in my immediate environment, permitting myself the luxury of paying for what is meaningful in my life, vis a vis people, places, things.

So, then, I take these two sections, and one at a time, I address the items on the two lists and give it the ‘death-bed test’! A ‘death-bed test???… what’s that, you’re probably wondering :)! Well, all it means is that when I’m ready to pass on, how will I feel about this particular thing? Will it be alright with me that I didn’t do it, or will I feel remorse and regret that I let the time or moment pass, and didn’t do, or say, something I should have 🙁 ? And, at that point, if it’s absolutely clear to me, at a deep, and soul level, that I’ll have regrets, while dying, I go ahead and just do it, and/or say it 🙂 !!!

And how did I hit upon this ‘test’? It happened when after 25 years of deliberating whether or not I should get a tattoo — seeing a beautiful rosebud on a woman’s ankle on Oxford Street in London in 1980, immediately wanting it, but having been raised in India, very conventionally, with strict ideas of ‘wrong’ and ‘right’, was very unsure about getting it — for reasons of ‘What will people think?’ ‘I’m the principal and owner of a school — if people find out, will it hurt my business?’ ‘Will people who judge people with tattoos, find me too wild?’ — all these, and a host of related questions kept me deliberating forever! Then I moved to Montreal in 1993, at a time when tattooing had evolved, it was all the rage, and I knew in my heart I still wanted one…. a-n-n-n-d, s-o-o-o, I  decided to give myself the ‘death-bed test’ 🙂… and immediately I knew… if I didn’t get my tattoo, I would be very regretful on my dying day, that for the sake of what others would think, I didn’t get it in this lifetime 🙁  🙁 🙁 !!! This discovery was SO FREEING, brought such a sense of liberation, that I decided I just had to be true to myself, and I went ahead and got my tattoo!!! This experience led to the wonderful innovation of the ‘death-bed test’! Since then, whenever I’m faced with a situation that I start deliberating too long over, I give myself this ‘test’!!!

Your turn, now… give yourself a death-bed test, and think about what you would do differently, what would you DO instead of not doing, and in the final analysis, what would see you smile, on YOUR death-bed? Choose that, and DO IT 🙂


“I love myself enough to (2)…

…take the time and trouble to get all the information I need to understand what makes me thrive, and what hurts me.” How wonderful it would be if we all had the clarity to be able to understand and declare this to ourselves!

This information would obviously cover the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual realms of being. Many, in fact a great majority, is aware only of the physical and mental aspects of life… a few more will entertain the workings of the emotional mind, but the more we learn, the more we understand that if we truly love and respect ourselves, we cannot ignore the interplay of these ALL four aspects of our true and complete reality. And more importantly, a lack of balance in the first three will truly hurt the spiritual aspect, which is the most important aspect of them all.

So, if I truly loved and respected myself, I would do everything in my power to live a fulfilled life — with no regrets! <3 On this Easter Sunday, my wish for you all is, may you fulfill each life-enhancing dream, experiencing every happiness, and when it's time for the final goodbye, 'leave' peacefully, with no regrets! <3

I love myself enough to…

I wrote the title of the post and instead of continuing to write my own ideas, I decided to first throw it as a question to you all, the readers of this blog :)! So, if you truly loved and respected yourself, who would you be? What would you do? More importantly, what are the things you wouldn’t be, or do?

I have found that sometimes, to be able to answer questions of this nature, and for more clarity, it is essential to have a clear understanding of what it is that we would NOT want. Now go ahead, take some time to think about these questions :)… In tomorrow’s blog I’ll return with more.

Have a great day/evening 🙂

And some may prefer these hotels :)

1. Giraffe Manor, Kenya


The Giraffe Manor was built by Sir David Duncan in 1932 as a private home surrounded by over 140 acres of its own park and forest. In 1974, Jock Leslie-Melville bought the manor and founded the African Fund for Endangered Wildlife. The Melvilles set about making the Manor a refuge for a number of endangered species like the Rothschild giraffe.


Now travelers from all over the world visitthe Manor to dine with the giraffes and enjoy the Manor’s welcoming and warm accommodations. If I ever traveled to Africa, this would definitely figure on my sightseeing and staying at list!

2. Sarova Salt Lick Game Lodge, Kenya

sarova-salt-lick-exteriorYet another of Kenya’s beautiful and exciting hotels, the Sarova Saltlick Game Lodge is any wildlife enthusiast’s’ fantasy. The hotel was built ecologically, to fit into the habitat of the wild animals that roam through its premises.

It is located in the middle of the Taita Hills Sanctuary, a private wildlife conservatory located about a 6 hour drive away from the capital of Nairobi, and is made up of rooms on stilts located right above the animal watering holes. The rooms are connected by walkways that allow the guests to enjoy front row view of the wildlife below.

3.  King Pacific Lodge, Canada

photoNow for a hotel that is actually in the water. The King Pacific Lodge is considered the only hotel in the world where guests float on the water as they rest. Unlike a cruise ship, the hotel is comfortable and feels much homier.

The hotel travels through one of the largest nature reserves in the world, Princess Royal Island, which is full of magnificent flora and fauna.


It is the ultimate vacation for luxury adventure travelers as it is located at the heart of the Great Bear Rainforest on the western coast of British Columbia. However, the hotel is only open from May to October.

The resort is only accessible by float plane as the Great Bear Rainforest protects some of the world’s most endangered animals, like the Spirit Bear, Orca Whales, bald eagles and wolves.

Oh dear… decisions, decisions — go to Marques de Riscal, Spain, first, or to British Columbia?… hmmmmmm!!! Perhaps toss a coin 😉