Monthly Archives: January 2014

The ‘angels’ in our lives <3

In life, everyone who crosses our path, is an angel in disguise… but it takes a lot of personal growth to finally understand this!

Some of these ‘angels’ come into our life to bring us lessons, so we may begin to understand our fears and insecurities, and hopefully grow and evolve enough to overcome them! This leads to deep inner healing, making us more complete, and authentic human beings!

Then there are ‘angels’ who meet us with love… to help us open our hearts more, to experience an expansiveness we didn’t know we were capable of!

What we need to understand is that at a soul level we attracted each one of them to us — some of them for the lessons we needed to learn for our growth, and some others for the support their love brings to us, helping us to stay standing in the face of the harshness of the lessons to be learned in life!

In the final analysis, it’s ALL good…

 

Part 2 — How to Praise and Encourage…

…a Child! Now that you have developed some expertise in encouraging and praising a child, INCLUDING YOUR OWN CHILD PARTS :), helping them to bloom, blossom and have high self-esteem, here are some more ways to do it!

untitledHere are 15 more examples of appropriate language and expressions, to use for this purpose!

1. How nice

2. That’s incredible

3. Much better

4. Spectacular

5. You’re precious

6. You’re a darling

7. Atta boy / Atta girl

8. Hip, hip hurray

9. Phenomenal

10. You’re important

11. You’re sensational

12. You’re fun

13. What an imagination

14. You tried hard

15. I trust you!

imagesAnd, once MORE — say these to the children you come in contact with, AND ESPECIALLY YOUR INNER CHILDREN, who need to hear this FIRST…because if you get comfortable with saying it to your INNER CHILDREN you will spontaneously be able to say it to all children!

AND DON’T FORGET: The pat on the back (on your own back too), A big hug (to yourself too), A thumbs-up sign and a wink (to yourself), A warm smile (a smile of satisfaction, for yourself)!

Hey :)…HOT DOG :))) — you’re doin’ good, Kid 🙂

 

Easy Wine Appreciation :)

2014-01-28 22_00_04I was in Boston this past weekend, spending quality time with family which always includes a gourmet meal or two, rural New England walks, and at least one visit to a bookstore! The bookstore visit this time was to The Concord Bookstore, on Main Street, in Concord, Massachusetts—a lovely and peaceful privately owned bookstore where we browsed for a while and then bought a few books. With this blog in mind, the book I bought is a fabulous ‘guide to becoming a wine expert’, or so claims the author, Richard Betts :)! Considered one amongst the top 200 Master Sommeliers in the world, he says his goal is to help people think of wine as a ‘grocery’, not as a ‘luxury’! This man sure speaks my language, and for sure deserved the $20 I paid for the book!

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In his book, called ‘The Essential Scratch and Sniff Guide to Becoming a Wine Expert’ he writes, “when my work is done, we’ll all have wine like civilized people do the world over — at lunch, at dinner, with food, family, and friends. Doesn’t matter what it is — heck, pour it out of a pitcher, pull it out of a box, drink it out of a tumbler — just as long as it makes you smile.” I completely agree 🙂 — this is the spirit we should approach wine with! You all can rest assured there’ll be sharings from this book in the next few weeks — the author makes it SO easy to understand and appreciate wine. Tucked away in the book, is a map (picture here), to help you understand the different features of different wines the world over, and evaluate for yourself which ones are right for your palate!

Thank you Richard Betts 🙂 — live long and prosper!

 

How to Praise and Encourage a Child :)

smiling_girl_face_clip_art_18793Not all parents, mentors, coaches and leaders know the right way to help a child bloom and blossom, and develop their self-esteem. Some even believe that too much praise can be bad. This would beg the question, how much praise is too much praise? But without worrying about ‘how much’ it is more important to use the right language of praise at the right time. Here are 15 examples of appropriate praise that will go straight to a child’s heart — be sure that it is sincere and from YOUR heart :)!

1. Wow

2. Way to go

3. Super

4. I knew you could do it

5. Fantastic

6. Bravo

7. You’re so smart

8. Good job

9. I like what you do/did

10. Beautiful work

11. I appreciate your help

12. Super work / You’re very creative

13. You’re terrific

14. You’re a real trooper

15. You’re so thoughtful

ALSO: A pat on the back, A big hug, A kiss, A thumbs-up sign, A warm smile, A smile and a secret wink in public.

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And NOW, a MOST IMPORTANT part!!! No matter how old we get, inside each and everyone of us is A CHILD PART who did not receive enough praise, or even if he/she did, it may not have been at an appropriate time…and it’s very possible that this child part receives no praise any more. So, PLEASE, praise your child part at EVERY possible opportunity. Say one or more of the above to yourself every time you feel you deserve some praise — and we all deserve SOME praise EACH DAY! 🙂

Hey, YOU’RE A TREASURE :))) — and I mean it from my heart! <3

 

Information we don’t need – Wine Quiz 3 ;)

2014-01-09 16_53_43Here are some more wine related fun facts — simply fun, not necessary for survival or anything serious 🙂

Questions:

Q1. Who said: “Champagne wishes, and caviar dreams”?

Q2. Which five celebrities have wine bottled under their own name?

Q3. Wine bottled by which celebrity couple won a prize in France in 2013?

Q4. Who said, “Penicillin may cure human beings, but it is wine that makes them happy”?

Q5. What would you call a person who appreciates and/or collects wine?

Drum roll, please…for the answers 🙂

A1. Robin Leach, the entertainment celebrity reporter and writer used to wish people ‘Champagne wishes, and caviar dreams’!

A2. Francis Ford Coppola, Dan Ackroyd, Wayne Gretzky, Kyle McLaughlin, Drew Bledsoe, Mario Andretti, and Greg Norman.

A3. A rosé wine named Jolie-Pitt & Perrin Côtes de Provence Rosé Miraval, No. 84 has been placed by the renowned wine magazine Wine Spectator on its list of the top 100 wines of 2013. And yes, “Jolie-Pitt” is really in the name, referring to Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. The wine was ranked the highest of any rosé on the list, essentially making it Wine Spectator’s best rosé in the world.

A4. Sir Alexander Fleming, who discovered penicillin. He was a Scottish biologist, pharmacologist and botanist.

A5. An Oenophile*.

*Pronounced Een-e-file, a person who greatly loves wine and studies it.

 

Are you like a chained elephant?

2876391Some years ago, I read an article by Jim Donovan, Speaker and Small Business Coach. In it he wrote about a unique experience, of being backstage at a Ringling Brothers Barnum & Bailey Circus show. There, he was able to walk around looking at the lions, tigers, giraffes and other circus animals. As he passed the elephants, he stopped, confused by the fact that these huge, magnificent creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not. He saw a trainer near by and asked why these magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

“Well,” he said, “when they are very young and much smaller, we use the same size rope to tie them, and at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They think the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free. (The second picture shows a chain around the elephant’s foot but I wasn’t able to find a pic with the rope 😉 — although I have seen them in India, just as described!)

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Jim Donovan wrote he was amazed, But I was in shock, and very saddened, when I read this article. To think of all the people in the world who go through life believing in limitations due to conditioning was too much for me to bear! To actually see that people are taught someone else’s limiting and erroneous beliefs, and brainwashed into thinking that a new way is not even possible is just so tragic!

Jim Donovan continues, “Challenge your own limiting beliefs by questioning them. If you begin to question a belief, you automatically weaken it. It has been said throughout history that whatever you believe with conviction, you can achieve. Don’t be like the poor elephants, and go through life stuck because of a belief handed to you, or which developed years ago. Take charge of your life, and live it to the fullest. You deserve the best!

 

The ‘Gym Where No One Goes’ :)

415649In my twenty years in Canada, during three different years, I took the annual membership in three different gyms — the Y, the Women’s Y, and Energy Cardio and didn’t make more than three visits to any. Hmmm…the number 3 is jinxed for me, it seems, where gyms are concerned :)! Did I feel remorse? Oh, yes…and I was very self-judgemental, telling myself that I was literally throwing money away…at the rate of 45-50 bucks x12, a year. Over time I just got over it, until yesterday when I completely forgave myself, and let go of any residual regret :)!

It happened when a friend came over and told me she saw ‘something very funny on TV’. It was part of a comedy show. And this is how it went:

A man asks his friend, if he had made any new year resolutions. The friend replies, “Well I decided to get fit, and to spend more time with my girlfriend — I didn’t do enough of either of these in the previous year!”

The man asked, “So, what are your plans?”

The friend replied, “A new gym has opened in my neighborhood, called ‘The Gym Where No One Goes’ — I have taken the annual membership for myself and my girlfriend. She and I are going to schedule time to train together, and then, since we WON’T go to our gym, we’ll hang out together and spend some quality time with each other.”

thumbGMMHDYW0Are you scratching your head? I was too :)…until I realized that every gym has members that take membership, and then DON’T go ;)!

So, what did I do, instead? I started taking courses in flamenco dancing, a few times a week. I realized that if there’s no pleasure in it, don’t go to the gym!!! Just look for activities that are fun, and bring pleasure. If you made any fitness goals at the beginning of the year, do stop and think about this…

 

This post is for the ‘child part’ of you :)

19-101265tongue-twister is a phrase that is designed to be difficult to articulate properly and can be used as a type of spoken or sung word game. Some tongue-twisters produce results which are humorous when they are mispronounced, while others are amusing because of the confusion they cause. Here are some very old and famous ones…the last four are from my schooldays. You’re supposed to recite them faster and faster as you go :)! Have fun!

Three witches watch, three Swatch watches.
Which witch watches which Swatch watch?

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Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers.
Did Peter Piper pick a peck of pickled peppers?
If Peter Piper Picked a peck of pickled peppers,
Where’s the peck of pickled peppers Peter Piper picked?

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How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
He would chuck, as much as he could,
And chuck as much as a woodchuck would
If a woodchuck could chuck wood.

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Betty Botter bought some butter but, said the butter’s bitter.
If I put it in my batter, it will make my batter bitter.
But a bit of better butter will make my bitter batter better.
So she bought some better butter, better than the bitter butter, butter,
And put it in her bitter batter, to make her bitter batter better.

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If you understand say “understand”.
If you don’t understand, say “don’t understand”.
But if you understand, and say “don’t understand”,
How do I understand, that you “understand”?

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Bye for now 🙂

 

Do yourself a favor :)

…and DO watch this TED talk. And then I hope you’ll share it far and wide — use it, tell others, teach others–especially the young, your children… This is Amy Cuddy’s talk: ‘Your body language shapes who you are.’ She’s an American social psychologist and this is one of her very popular and very valuable pieces of research.

She does speak fast but don’t let that discourage you…use the pause and the rewind feature as needed.

If it doesn’t automatically open, please cut and past the above link, or go to YouTube and search for Amy Cuddy, body language.

Let me know what you thought 🙂

 

How company policies are made ;)

Although truly eye-opening, this is pretty hilarious. It is based on an actual experiment carried out in the UK.

untitledPut eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling. Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are  sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable.

Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the ladder, all of  the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat  him up. Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put  in
the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of  the
other monkeys are doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately  begins
to climb the ladder. All the other monkeys fall upon him and  beat him
silly. He has no idea why.

However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder. A second original
monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb  the
ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he’s not on  the
receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all  the other
monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he’s  attacking the new
monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced.

Eight new monkeys are now in the room. None of them have ever been  sprayed
by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of  them will
enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without  having any idea
why. But, this is how many Company’s Policies get established!!!

And well, well, well—now we may begin to understand why some workplaces make no sense at all :)! Look around you. Is this happening where you work? Time to stand up and ask questions, no?